wardrobe remix 09 02 14 on Flickr.
My first-day-of-school outfit. It started pouring rain later in the day so I put on a cardigan and sloshed my way home in these insubstantial shoes.
It was a really good day! I love my English classes.
Anonymous said: I've asked you questions about dealing with a friend that I believe has a sex addiction and alcohol addiction (at one point we were going to move in together). Last night she was incredibly drunk and started hysterically crying and told a group of 5 girlfriends & her mom that she was raped. I don't know what to do. I don't know if she'll even remember telling us. I feel like I should address to let her know that I'm here for her, but some people have been saying not to do that.
I’m not a great person to be asking for advice on this because a) I don’t know a lot about the psychology of rape victims and b) I, too, had a friend who was sexually abused and none of us really knew how to handle it other than being there to listen to her and encouraging her to seek therapy, which she did.
I think you should definitely talk to her about it and tell her you’re available for her to talk to if she wants. I think you should also encourage her to consider therapy or at least consider calling a phone line about it. There are distress centres and rape crisis centres and other centres along those lines that might be able to offer more useful counseling and advice to her.
You don’t need to pretend you didn’t hear her just because she was drunk and upset and might be embarrassed about her behavior. When you find out a friend is in trouble, you do your best to help them, even if they find it a bit embarrassing. That’s what I think, anyway.
If she freaks out and distances herself from you for a while when you bring it up, don’t take it personally. She’ll probably look back on you months or years later as one of the few people who reached out to her and tried to help her.
More desk things.
1. Skinny little bulletin board by Martha Stewart. On it currently: my actor crush’s bio/picture/signature (I’m a weird kid), photobooth shots with Cadence, Instax shots of Ella + me/Eric/Ash. (We were all wearing black leather jackets that day so I insisted we take a picture together.)
2. I set up my SAD lamp on the desk so I can get in my morning mental health time while doing my morning pages. YES. I am going to kick seasonal depression in the face this year.
Anonymous said: Fair enough! Well, I hope you are doing okay, stay positive! and you'll have school to focus on soon!
Thanks, babe! Yeah, it’s definitely a good time for this to have happened – not only because school will take my mind off it but also because I genuinely wouldn’t have time to be dating someone during the crazy-busy semester I’m about to have.
Anonymous said: I kinda had a feeling it might be coming. Just noticed you weren't feeling monogamy at all
Yeah, but that’s nothing new. We had negotiated a compromise on that front, so that was okay. But you’re right, if and when I date again, I will be looking for someone who’s down with ethical non-monogamy in some form.
Anonymous said: Why did you guys break up? Sorry if its too personal but ive been reading your blog for years and am surprised.
I just don’t really want to be in a relationship right now. It was nothing to do with him or anything he did. (I know people always say that, but in this case it’s actually true.) I don’t really feel like getting into more detail about specifically why, but yeah, basically I have just been feeling for a while that it’s not a great time for me to be in a relationship and I would be happier at the moment if I were single.
Hey, just an FYI, my relationship has come to an end. I told you I would tell you if that ever happened, and it has.
Don’t worry, I’m fine. Everything was amicable and for the best.
Just finished doing a full face, fo’ funsies, like you do.
Pretty stoked that I’ve finally found a couple of blushes I don’t hate. Watch this space, I may be writing on this topic for a beauty site at some point…
Also check out my brows. I’ve come to terms with the fact that one of them is curvy and the other is pointy. It’s just how they roll.
Product list: http://abetterface.tumblr.com as usual