You don’t know anyone else’s body, life, or circumstances better than they do, so please don’t make invalidating statements about any of those things.
If you haven’t been asked to give advice, your advice probably isn’t wanted.
Put a “Mental Health” folder on my iPhone’s home screen. Right now it just contains SAM (anxiety management) and Superbetter (recovery) but I’m hoping to add more; maybe a meditation app or something to help with deep breathing. Does anyone have any other suggestions for apps that might improve mental health in any way?
-SAD lamp time each morning
-Run on the treadmill daily
-Go for long walks in a warm coat while listening to funny podcasts
-Cuddle my cat endlessly
-Masturbate more and have more sex
-Take vitamin D
-Get more sleep
-Eat more fruits and vegetables
-Read intriguing novels
-Consume less caffeine
-Do a daily gratitude list even when I don’t feel like it
-Do yoga or at least stretch daily
-Write in my journal
-Drink more water
Today, at about 5PM, I told Max that I hadn’t eaten anything today except for a couple of crackers, and he RAN into the kitchen and brought me a banana and forced me to eat it. He knows that I’m prone to low blood sugar and fainting when I don’t eat, and he was genuinely concerned about me even though I felt fine. I love him so much. He’s grown into an incredibly excellent young man and I feel very supported and loved by him every day.
Anonymous asked: Is it weird if I live in Toronto and we are kind of acquaintances (but not reeeealllly) and I've been following your online presence for a long time and I want to get you a Christmas gift because I came across something I think you'd really like?
That is not weird, that is super cute. Reveal yourself!!!!!
If they miss you, they’ll call. If they want you, they’ll say it. If they care, they’ll show it. And if not, they aren’t worth your time.
Anonymous asked: how are you dealing with dry winter skin?
UGH it’s such a problem!!
Currently, for my face, I’m using Mario Badescu products: the Enzyme Cleansing Gel and Seaweed Night Cream. The cleanser is quite gentle so it’s good for winter, and I can even use it with my Clarisonic without drying out or irritating my skin. The night cream is pretty heavy so I couldn’t use it during the summer without turning into an oily mess, but it’s PERFECT for winter – it’s packed full of hyaluronic acid so applying it over damp skin makes my skin positively lovely. It drinks it right up.
If I happen to wash my face during the day, I use CeraVe cream instead, because it’s lighter and better suited for daytime. In addition to those products, sometimes I will use these Stridex pads for chemical exfoliation, though I need to follow them up with a lot of moisturizer (after waiting an appropriate amount of time for the salicylic acid to do its magic) because they can be drying. I’m also thinking of incorporating Vaseline into my routine, applying it over top of moisturizer as an occlusive to lock in moisture.
For my body, I’ve been using Body Shop mango body butter because it’s awesome and smells great.
Ugh I’ve been getting so frustrated about this shit lately. Piper Chapman’s a “former lesbian,” Anne Heche “won’t make up her mind,” and I get misread as straight all the damn time. Recently I was re-watching season 2 of The O.C., which has a huge bisexuality storyline, and I don’t think I heard the word “bisexual” once. Media-makers, step up your game, we exist!
Tom Daley literally said “Of course I still fancy girls, but right now I’m dating a guy”
for every tweet that acknowledged both men and women, or bisexuality, there were about six like the ones above
does anyone really think bisexual erasure isn’t a thing?
Part of my self-care this winter has been investing in things that will actually keep me warm through many winters to come (shearling-lined Bean boots and a down coat). I bought both of them at Black Friday/Cyber Monday prices so it wasn’t ridiculous but it was still more money than I’m accustomed to spending on clothes/accessories. But I kind of think, the money that I earn with my work is for me to spend, and I don’t have to hoard it, and I should spend it on things that will actually improve my life (which these things already have, noticeably) and not worry if it takes me a couple months to pay off my credit card bill.
I think we all have these ongoing problems in our lives that could probably be solved with a little intervention, whether financial or emotional or time-based or whatever, and I think if you’re able to solve these problems, it’s a very nice thing to do for yourself. Reorganizing your wardrobe, setting up a reading nook in your room, finding an extra blanket for your bed, filling your head with new music. Make your life more beautiful and comfortable in the ways that you can. Sometimes it’s a fair amount of work but your future self will feel grateful to your past self.