- Male author: I guess women are people
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Anonymous said: ly romantic feelings for a woman in my life. I've never wanted to date a woman or had a crush on one. I've thought maybe that I'm suppressing it or something, but I doubt it. Basically, I fall in love with men, but mostly want to have sex with women. Hetero romantic homosexual. I think I could probably have sex with men and enjoy it, but women turn me on significantly more. So I don't really know how I'll ever be satisfied in a relationship. uggggggh. heeeeelp.
So, I didn’t get the first part of this, but I think I get the gist.
I’ve actually felt like this at certain times in my life, and in my case it was because I had so little experience (i.e. none) with The Penis that I found the whole idea of it somewhat repellent and it didn’t enter into my sexual desires or fantasies at all, so those all became focused on women (or men who mysteriously had no use for their penises in my silly fantasies). I don’t know if that’s the case for you but it’s something to think about, I guess.
All I can really say is that sexuality changes throughout life for a lot of people, so what you feel now is unlikely to go on forever. When you’re really attracted to someone, it’ll usually be both sexual and romantic, even if you’ve never had those feelings for someone of that gender before. People can surprise you. Your own attractions can surprise you.
I would also add that if you ever do decide to have sex with a woman, and she’s a woman for whom your feelings are purely sexual as you’ve described, then you should disclose that to her. Tell her about your tentative heteroromantic/homosexual identity. Let her decide whether or not she’s okay with sleeping with someone who feels that way. She may not be, but it’s better to be open about it than to use someone for sex under false pretenses.
Best of luck in figuring your shit out, babe. I have faith that you can do it, because I was the most confused person in the world and I managed to do it!
Planning session for editing presentation
Drinking with cousins
Children’s lit class
Going to see The King’s Speech with my mom
Phone interview for my current magazine story
Digital reporting class
Chill the fuck out in the evening
Sit in on a class at Rosedale for my magazine story
In-person interview for my magazine story
BIG WRITING DAY (get first draft done, hopefully)
Law and ethics class + quiz
Feminist history class
Going to see The Crucible at Soulpepper
An estimated 63 percent of young men between the ages of 11 and 20 who are imprisoned for homicide have killed their mothers’ batterers.
Kimberlé Crenshaw, in her article Intersectionality and Identity Politics: Learning from Violence Against Women of Color [PDF] (via afrometaphysics)
I find it really strange that when you’re in a long distance friendship or relationship all you want to do is see that person and being around them is the biggest most wonderful deal but there are people who interact with them
all the time, on the street and in the classroom and in the shops and it always makes me jealous because you want to be with this person so much and for everyone else they’re nothing special but for you they’re everything special