Now remember people, National Coming Out Day is on its way. If you “come out” on facebook as straight and/or cis, an ally, a brony, a fucking whovian, or anything other than a marginalized sexual orientation and/or gender identity, I will ram my boot so far up your ass you’ll be tasting Vans for weeks.
Bi tumblr:it is really important that people understand that the definition of bisexuality is the attraction to two or more genders.
Non-bis:yo i get this but you know what else is really important? Grammar. "Bi" means two, so no, bisexuality is the attraction to two genders.
Bi tumblr:that is really biphobic of you. please stop.
Non-bis:semantics are more important to me than listening to you, tbqh, and i really don't care. Allow me to spend the next 2k words describing how much of an Ally™ i am and why you should be grateful to me, closing it with a linguistics lesson i gleaned from wikipedia 2 seconds ago when you called me out.
It has come to my attention that there are fully legal adults who are not familiar with this, who do not know what to do when they hear it, and indeed, were born after it came out.
This is unacceptable.
It is irrevocably tattooed into the brain of anyone vaguely associated with Western culture who was old enough to form cognizant memories in the mid 90s. And yes, we can all do the dance. I guarantee you Dean Winchester can do the dance. Bobby can do the dance. Sherlock can do the dance. Tony Stark has made sure all his robots can do the dance.
And all of you over the age of 25 already know what it is before you press play.
I was hoping it wasn’t this.
I PRESSED PLAY AND MY BODY JUST STARTED DOING THE DANCE FROM SHEER MUSCLE MEMORY
I PLAYED 4 SECONDS OF THIS AND MY LITTLE SISTER STOPPED WHAT SHE WAS DOING AND STARTED DANCING, AS DID MY MOTHER THIS IS SOME VOODOO SHIT
American Apparel accidentally sent me a pair of black fishnet hold-ups instead of the simple nude hold-ups I had ordered. I was trying to think where I could ever possibly wear fishnets, and then I remembered that I’m going to an Amanda Palmer book reading/show in November. Let the outfit planning commence!
I was wondering why people keep telling me I look like Wednesday Addams recently and I thought it was just because I’ve been wearing a lot of braids lately but then I remembered that Christina Ricci played Wednesday Addams and like a zillion people used to tell me I look like Christina Ricci so ahhh it all makes sense
(Also I think that might be a good sign re: my weight loss being visible? Because no one ever told me I looked like CR while I was at my heaviest weight, but I used to get it all the time when I was thinner)
ly romantic feelings for a woman in my life. I've never wanted to date a woman or had a crush on one. I've thought maybe that I'm suppressing it or something, but I doubt it. Basically, I fall in love with men, but mostly want to have sex with women. Hetero romantic homosexual. I think I could probably have sex with men and enjoy it, but women turn me on significantly more. So I don't really know how I'll ever be satisfied in a relationship. uggggggh. heeeeelp.
So, I didn’t get the first part of this, but I think I get the gist.
I’ve actually felt like this at certain times in my life, and in my case it was because I had so little experience (i.e. none) with The Penis that I found the whole idea of it somewhat repellent and it didn’t enter into my sexual desires or fantasies at all, so those all became focused on women (or men who mysteriously had no use for their penises in my silly fantasies). I don’t know if that’s the case for you but it’s something to think about, I guess.
All I can really say is that sexuality changes throughout life for a lot of people, so what you feel now is unlikely to go on forever. When you’re really attracted to someone, it’ll usually be both sexual and romantic, even if you’ve never had those feelings for someone of that gender before. People can surprise you. Your own attractions can surprise you.
I would also add that if you ever do decide to have sex with a woman, and she’s a woman for whom your feelings are purely sexual as you’ve described, then you should disclose that to her. Tell her about your tentative heteroromantic/homosexual identity. Let her decide whether or not she’s okay with sleeping with someone who feels that way. She may not be, but it’s better to be open about it than to use someone for sex under false pretenses.
Best of luck in figuring your shit out, babe. I have faith that you can do it, because I was the most confused person in the world and I managed to do it!
I find it really strange that when you’re in a long distance friendship or relationship all you want to do is see that person and being around them is the biggest most wonderful deal but there are people who interact with them all the time, on the street and in the classroom and in the shops and it always makes me jealous because you want to be with this person so much and for everyone else they’re nothing special but for you they’re everything special
“Let’s examine a traditionally male-dominated role that is very well-respected, and well-paid, in many parts of the world — that of a doctor. In the UK, it is listed as one of the top ten lucrative careers, and the average annual income of a family doctor in the US is well into six figures. It also confers on you significant social status, and a common stereotype in Asian communities is of parents encouraging their children to become doctors.
One of my lecturers at university once presented us with this thought exercise: why are doctors so highly paid, and so well-respected? Our answers were predictable. Because they save lives, their skills are extremely important, and it takes years and years of education to become one. All sound, logical reasons. But these traits that doctors possess are universal. So why is it, she asked, that doctors in Russia are so lowly paid? Making less than £7,500 a year, it is one of the lowest paid professions in Russia, and poorly respected at that. Why is this?
The answer is crushingly, breathtakingly simple. In Russia, the majority of doctors are women. Here’s a quote from Carol Schmidt, a geriatric nurse practitioner who toured medical facilities in Moscow: “Their status and pay are more like our blue-collar workers, even though they require about the same amount of training as the American doctor… medical practice is stereotyped as a caring vocation ‘naturally suited‘ to women, [which puts it at] a second-class level in the Soviet psyche.”
Congrats on the successful weight loss! You look fantastic. I've been working on it as well, dropping about 11 lbs so far, along with toning up, and damn, it feels fucking amazing. Keep it up, lady! - Jay
I’ve had a couple people tell me I should consider becoming a life coach (?!) but I’m always like, I have enough anxiety about figuring out what to do with my OWN life; I don’t need the added terror of bossing other people around.
Even when I was working at a youth helpline, at which we weren’t allowed to give explicit instructions but only suggestions, I always felt nervous I’d suggest the wrong thing.