Any motivation tips for switching eating or exercise habits in the long term?
1. Set a minimum time frame, like 30 days or 90 days, that you will commit to this change. If you hate it by the end of that time period, you can think about changing or stopping. But you probably won’t. Habits take time to form and once they’re formed, they seem way easier and more normal.
2. Find a tracking or reward system that works for you. I like MyFitnessPal because I have friends on there who are potentially watching what I do, and that’s motivating for me, as is the gamelikeness of trying to “score” under a certain amount of calories every day. Maybe you need to make a chart and put a gold star on it for every day you do well. Maybe you need to buy a new Lush bath bomb at the end of every week you succeed. Maybe an hour of exercise = an hour of reading for pleasure. Figure out what’ll work for you, perhaps through trial and error, and then do it.
3. Remember that you don’t actually need motivation, you just need to do it. Even if you don’t feel like doing it, do it anyway and it’ll be easier once you’ve started making that healthy meal/running on the treadmill/whatever. No one moment is unendurable; no one craving HAS to be given into; no one bout of laziness HAS to be heeded. You have willpower, so you don’t always need motivation.
4. Find meals you love and exercises you love that will fit into your new plan. You won’t stick with it if you force yourself to eat or do things you hate. You have to love or at least like every element of your new lifestyle change for it to stick. Experiment with different ways of preparing veggies; try out various kinds of workout videos on YouTube; etc.
5. Have an idea of why you’re doing this (want to look and feel good for a particular event? Want to feel strong and capable? Want to make your ex jealous? Hey man, whatever works for you) and post some reminders of this reason in places where you might be likely to make food- or exercise-related decisions (on the fridge, next to the yoga mat, etc). Maybe you could post some motivational quotes or maybe you could make a vision board of what you want to achieve.
"tea is just leaf water!" "yeah well coffee is just bean water!" wow, it’s. it’s like everything is made of things. this door is just wood rectangle. this poster is just ink paper. this lemonade is just lemon water. wow, it’s like you can combine ingredients to make things that are more enjoyable than the initial parts of the equation. sure is a magical world we live in
BY KEVIN D. WILLIAMSON: To say the actor is a woman makes subjective impressions superordinate to biological fact.
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what a craven little shit
this is singularly transmisogynistic. he goes after Laverne and Chelsea, belittles the seriousness of invasive cis people and their obsession with genetalia, and continually misgenders both like they’re the goddamn arbiter of truth. Kevin Williamson is a sack of shit with a short career ahead.
I just called the Sun Times.
Say “something else”, and then talk to the nice people in customer service. Tell them that this article was hate speech, that you demand a retraction and full apology by the Sun Times, and that you will be making sure that your social media contacts will know (if they leave it up) that the Sun Times republishes unabashed anti-trans hate speech.
Alright y’all we got the number, blow this fucking line up. And don’t stop calling this line til, the Sun Times, not only apologize, prints a retraction, and fires this transmisogynistic piece of shit.
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“If you want to show an artist how much you love them and value the work that they do for the community - PAY THEM. Pay them and advertise the hell out of them. Have you tried to pay your hydro bill with a mug before? You know who doesn’t create more of the art that you love? Artists who are sitting alone in the dark with a cupboard full of mugs.”—Beth Murch (http://bethmurch.wordpress.com/home/)
Tonight I went out, and within the span of about 10 minutes, was complimented by two different strangers (on my dress and bag, respectively). This generally happens to me pretty rarely so I think it lends credence to something I’ve read from other people’s weight loss experiences, which is that they get many more strangers coming up to them and talking to them now that they’re thinner, since thinner people in our culture tend to be seen as both more visible/noticeable and more approachable.
Lately it seems like if you have your wisdom teeth out, you’re obligated to get someone to take a video of you waking up from the anesthesia afterwards.
I am glad that camera phones weren’t a thing when I had my wisdom teeth out for a few reasons, mostly because Josh Groban was playing when I…
Things that happened when I woke up from anaesthesia after my wisdom teeth removal:
-I immediately remembered that my crush at the time had a girlfriend, which made me cry. -This prompted me to reach into my purse, open my journal, and start writing a sad love poem. When the dentist came in and asked me what I was writing, I couldn’t think clearly enough to make something up so I just said “A poem.” What a weirdo. -The doctor told my mom not to let me drink, smoke, or exercise for a few weeks after surgery and I started laughing because, at that time, there was practically zero chance of me doing any of those things.
In spite of society’s tireless tirade against the selfie, I will always be in full support of it for the reason that, in my opinion, there is nothing inherently wrong with seeking attention.
You are indeed gorgeous and noteworthy and you should share your mug with the world if it makes you happy! Selfies have the power to build self-esteem, forge connections through social networking and express one’s individual style and identity. Besides, there are far worse evils in the world than taking a photo of you and your new outfit.
Any good jean shopping recommendations in Toronto? I *think* we're a similar shape, from what I can tell in photos.
I don’t really go anywhere fancy. My favorite pair is from the Gap (it’s the “Always Skinny” style). My second-favorite pair is from Madewell – I don’t think they have Canadian stores; I ordered mine online. The one fancy-ish/non-standard pair I have is from Trove, just south of Bathurst and Bloor – it’s by a brand called “Yoga Jeans” and they are so called because they are very stretchy. They come in a ton of different colors. Mine are turquoise.
^ this, tho… the message in these ridiculous dress codes remains “boys deserve an undistracted education, and you-GIRL-are a distraction… and your education comes second. You should be grateful, anyway… it’s really more than you deserve.” and i actually am not going to repeat how it reinforces rape culture because really, i’m just so damn tired of the messages we send young women about being nothing more than an accesory in a man’s life… fuck that. and fuck awful myopic dress codes… (via ginandbird)
This parent is right. The school is sending a message that girls’ clothes are supposed to distract boys; that boys can use them as an excuse, that girls when assaulted should blame themselves because they must have worn the wrong thing, because their clothes made them unfit to mingle with their peers. Have I got that right? (rhetorical)
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Hi Kate. i'm having a really hard time at my new job. My boss is difficult to deal with (today, for example, she tried to force me to hook up my personal phone to my email so that I can constantly check my email, the list goes on). I'm trying to do things to make myself feel better, I listen to my fave albums at work, take a walk when I feel frustrated, etc. but I was wonddering if you've ever had a boss like this and how you handled it. It pays the bills but I feel somewhat trapped
I’m sorry, babe; I’ve had tyrants in my life but none have been bosses.
If she’s ever making a request of you which is genuinely inappropriate, you can express to her that you think her request is inappropriate and you can explain why.
If there’s a human resources department or person, you can perhaps talk to them about next steps, what to do, etc.
One thing I sometimes do when I have to deal with someone I dislike is to make mental lists of things I actually like about them. I know it sounds silly but I find it helpful. What you focus on most tends to persist.
If you’re super unhappy and don’t think you can stay, it might be a good idea to start applying to other jobs now and try to find something else. No reason to put yourself through torture if you don’t strictly have to.
Aside from that… Just do your best to compartmentalize your life. You don’t have to worry about work while you’re not at work, and in fact it’s not really helpful to do so. Enjoy your life while you’re living it and deal with the hard stuff only when it’s in your present moment.
Anxiety-reduction techniques like deep breathing, EFT, and visualizations are easy to learn and they’re effective for many folks. Do ‘em when you need ‘em.
Best of luck, my love! Sorry you’re going through this.