Lately it seems like if you have your wisdom teeth out, you’re obligated to get someone to take a video of you waking up from the anesthesia afterwards.
I am glad that camera phones weren’t a thing when I had my wisdom teeth out for a few reasons, mostly because Josh Groban was playing when I…
Things that happened when I woke up from anaesthesia after my wisdom teeth removal:
-I immediately remembered that my crush at the time had a girlfriend, which made me cry. -This prompted me to reach into my purse, open my journal, and start writing a sad love poem. When the dentist came in and asked me what I was writing, I couldn’t think clearly enough to make something up so I just said “A poem.” What a weirdo. -The doctor told my mom not to let me drink, smoke, or exercise for a few weeks after surgery and I started laughing because, at that time, there was practically zero chance of me doing any of those things.
In spite of society’s tireless tirade against the selfie, I will always be in full support of it for the reason that, in my opinion, there is nothing inherently wrong with seeking attention.
You are indeed gorgeous and noteworthy and you should share your mug with the world if it makes you happy! Selfies have the power to build self-esteem, forge connections through social networking and express one’s individual style and identity. Besides, there are far worse evils in the world than taking a photo of you and your new outfit.
Any good jean shopping recommendations in Toronto? I *think* we're a similar shape, from what I can tell in photos.
I don’t really go anywhere fancy. My favorite pair is from the Gap (it’s the “Always Skinny” style). My second-favorite pair is from Madewell – I don’t think they have Canadian stores; I ordered mine online. The one fancy-ish/non-standard pair I have is from Trove, just south of Bathurst and Bloor – it’s by a brand called “Yoga Jeans” and they are so called because they are very stretchy. They come in a ton of different colors. Mine are turquoise.
^ this, tho… the message in these ridiculous dress codes remains “boys deserve an undistracted education, and you-GIRL-are a distraction… and your education comes second. You should be grateful, anyway… it’s really more than you deserve.” and i actually am not going to repeat how it reinforces rape culture because really, i’m just so damn tired of the messages we send young women about being nothing more than an accesory in a man’s life… fuck that. and fuck awful myopic dress codes… (via ginandbird)
This parent is right. The school is sending a message that girls’ clothes are supposed to distract boys; that boys can use them as an excuse, that girls when assaulted should blame themselves because they must have worn the wrong thing, because their clothes made them unfit to mingle with their peers. Have I got that right? (rhetorical)
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Hi Kate. i'm having a really hard time at my new job. My boss is difficult to deal with (today, for example, she tried to force me to hook up my personal phone to my email so that I can constantly check my email, the list goes on). I'm trying to do things to make myself feel better, I listen to my fave albums at work, take a walk when I feel frustrated, etc. but I was wonddering if you've ever had a boss like this and how you handled it. It pays the bills but I feel somewhat trapped
I’m sorry, babe; I’ve had tyrants in my life but none have been bosses.
If she’s ever making a request of you which is genuinely inappropriate, you can express to her that you think her request is inappropriate and you can explain why.
If there’s a human resources department or person, you can perhaps talk to them about next steps, what to do, etc.
One thing I sometimes do when I have to deal with someone I dislike is to make mental lists of things I actually like about them. I know it sounds silly but I find it helpful. What you focus on most tends to persist.
If you’re super unhappy and don’t think you can stay, it might be a good idea to start applying to other jobs now and try to find something else. No reason to put yourself through torture if you don’t strictly have to.
Aside from that… Just do your best to compartmentalize your life. You don’t have to worry about work while you’re not at work, and in fact it’s not really helpful to do so. Enjoy your life while you’re living it and deal with the hard stuff only when it’s in your present moment.
Anxiety-reduction techniques like deep breathing, EFT, and visualizations are easy to learn and they’re effective for many folks. Do ‘em when you need ‘em.
Best of luck, my love! Sorry you’re going through this.
Avalon Organics scalp-normalizing shampoo (applied with a plastic/silicone scalp brush I bought on Amazon). This seems to help with my dry/flaky scalp a little, though I think the brush is doing most of the work in that department.
For conditioner, I usually use whatever’s on hand. My mom is always buying me fruity conditioners because I used to use exclusively Suave Naturals ones. I half-heartedly try to avoid silicones but don’t always succeed.
For scrunching curls into my wet hair post-wash, I used Lush R&B for quite a while, but recently I was sent a generous sample of DevaCurl curl-defining gel and I’m really into it. I’ll buy a bottle when my sample runs out, fo’ sho’.
Other products I use occasionally on my hair: Klorane dry shampoo, unrefined coconut oil, L’Oreal hairspray.
It just occurred to me that the main reason that “coming out as an ally” shouldn’t be a thing is because if you’re actually an ally, people should already know. Being an ally means calling people on their homophobic, transphobic, and binarist shit. Being an ally means actually doing activism, generally where people can see you. If you’re so meek about it that the bigots in your life would be surprised about you not being one of them, then you might not actually be an ally.
Just wanted to say thanks for posting that list on how to cope with overwhelming emotions. I've been having a lot of problems with that lately and I have no idea why. It' helps to be reminded that it's perfectly okay to feel that way and to know that you're not alone.
Kate, I had to drop you a line and commend you on your weight loss. You look amazing! In your near-naked selfies you can see that you have lost weight and in a way that is evenly distributed. Awesome job! You've stuck it out and done it in a very healthy way, You can lose whatever amount you decide on and it will stay off because you've done it in such a healthy manner. Kudos! You deserve it!
Aw, babe! What a sweet message. Thank you so much.
Lately I’ve been avoiding buying clothes because I’m concerned it’ll be a waste of money if my body changes significantly as I lose the weight (which of course it will)… but AA was having a secret sale so I got a beautiful blue leather belt, two pairs of their great anti-chub-rub bike shorts, a red chemise, and a blue T-shirt. These seem like pretty safe things and good investments.
GOD I just want to wear bright royal blue allllll the time.