I am an ISFJ - Introverted, Sensing, Feeling, Judging (as opposed to Extroverted, Intuitive, Thinking, Perceiving).
ISFJs tend to be quiet and reserved. They generally prefer interacting with a few close friends rather than a wide circle of acquaintances, and they expend energy in social situations (whereas extraverts gain energy).
ISFJs tend to be more concrete than abstract. They focus their attention on the details rather than the big picture, and on immediate realities rather than future possibilities.
ISFJs tend to value personal considerations above objective criteria. When making decisions, they often give more weight to social implications than to logic.
ISFJs tend to plan their activities and make decisions early. They derive a sense of control through predictability.
ISFJs are characterized above all by their desire to serve others, their “need to be needed.” In extreme cases, this need is so strong that standard give-and-take relationships are deeply unsatisfying to them; however, most ISFJs find more than enough with which to occupy themselves within the framework of a normal life.
ISFJs are often unappreciated, at work, home, and play. Ironically, because they prove over and over that they can be relied on for their loyalty and unstinting, high-quality work, those around them often take them for granted—even take advantage of them. Admittedly, the problem is sometimes aggravated by the ISFJs themselves; for instance, they are notoriously bad at delegating (“If you want it done right, do it yourself”).
While their work ethic is high on the ISFJ priority list, their families are the centers of their lives. ISFJs are extremely warm and demonstrative within the family circle—and often possessive of their loved ones, as well. When these include Es who want to socialize with the rest of the world, or self-contained ITs, the ISFJ must learn to adjust to these behaviors and not interpret them as rejection.
-Warm, friendly and affirming by nature
-Excellent organizational capabilities
-Usually good (albeit conservative) at handling money
-Take their commitments seriously, and seek lifelong relationships
-May have difficulty branching out into new territory
-Have difficulty leaving a bad relationship
-Have difficulty moving on after the end of a relationship
“You are the only exception” - Hayley Williams, Paramore
Do you ever miss something so much it hurts? I do. I remember what it felt like to be loved. I remember feeling happy, and I remember being wanted. I forgot how to love when you broke my heart. Rebuilding is the next step. Its going to take time, but I will be myself again. I deserve that much, right? To be happy? I’m going to be new, I’m going to be better than ever. You’re going to wish you hadn’t said no…
We are in a freakishly similar mood tonight, Michael…
I’m reading The Artist’s Way & one of the exercises was to make a list of “5 things you personally would never do that sound fun.” Here are mine:
1. Get high with a nice boy
2. Backpack through Europe
3. Be in a musical
4. Nude modeling
5. Throw a huge charity fundraiser
I guess the point of the exercise is to make you realize that a lot of the stuff you’d “never” do is stuff you probably should do, for the sake of personal growth, etc. Except I don’t ever want to get high, & I think, if I went backpacking anywhere, I’d be feverishly wishing for running water & a comfy bed within the first week. The other things sound legitimately excellent though.