good advice for everyone
1. do your kegel exercises regularly 2. be honest with people who are important to you 3. be generous as often as possible 4. carry condoms with you always, just incase 5. read a lot 6. don’t reward behavior you disapprove of 7. identify what makes you feel good and do more of it 8. ask for help when you need it 9. keep a journal 10. if an element of your life isn’t...
Anonymous asked: kate sloan! you lovely being. so. i am kinda drunk, but i just want you to know you have been a huge influence in my life even though we've never actually spoken. sometimes i am jealous you are so okay with everything and sometimes i embrace that and work towards what you have. it's hard but you're a pretty big influence, and i hope your heart stays full and content. ps i would make...
Jaclyn Friedman: This Is What Rape Culture Looks... →
cadeblog asked: by day i am tough, i am stubborn and rough, but by night i'm as smooth as an eggshell.
I want to read Room again, but I can't, because...
I guess I could go re-buy it, or look for it at a used bookstore, or something… but I’m worried that the same thing will happen again!
Bought a Lelo Mona yesterday.
Best. Ever. As always - I cannot recommend Lelo highly enough, especially if you are a newbie to the world of sex toys and/or want something high-quality that will last you a very long time. One of the things I like best about Lelo is that they actually listen to the customer feedback they receive. A couple years ago, they put out a survey for their fans that basically asked, “What do...
Anonymous asked: A couple months ago I sent you a question about losing my virginity (post/8250547517/im-very-much-in-love-with-my-boyfriend-were-both) and I just wanted to thank you SO much for your answer. My boyfriend and I gave each other our virginities in October, and it was a completely wonderful and positive experience. I really appreciate your support and advice in a time when I was pretty darn scared!...
Any woman who is seriously considering using dildos needs to be aware that she...– this fantastic article I’m reading about female ejaculation
discussing something we saw on Reddit
Damian: Our definitions of cheating [on one's partner] line up.
Me: Yeah, except there might be some things we don't know about each other yet.
Damian: What about... dolphins?
Me: Totally not cheating. If you get that opportunity, you gotta go for it.
Damian: What the fuck are you talking about?
Middle School Boys Learn That They Can Stop Rape →
2011: THE YEAR OF BEING MAD WITH LOVE
1. What did you do in 2011 that you’d never done before? Wore a moustache band-aid on my face; was high-fived by a drunken blonde elf-man; was propositioned for “no-strings-attached foreplay”; was written about in a magazine (Shameless); got super jealous about my friend’s success with OkCupid; delved into my personal psychology regarding my fear of relationships with men;...
I'm on this kick where all I want to do is support...
People who’ve worked hard to create their own high-quality, friendly brand. People who make rad stuff that only a minuscule fraction of the population will ever own or even hear about. People who take pride in bringing cool stuff to the world. In the past couple months, I’ve bought handmade soap, mineral makeup, tea, pinback buttons, and earrings. It always feels so much better to...
What are you going to wear on New Year's Eve?!
Anonymous asked: What is your advice for writing meaningful New Year's resolutions and revving up for the new year?
Um, I have become one of those girls who has a... →
Me: Dames, if you're bored, you don't have to sit around with me. You can go downstairs.
Damian: Kate! I already told you - I want to stay by your side! Leave me alone!
Me: ...That was very contradictory.
from a Reddit thread about asexuality
toflobster: So when you see an attractive girl (or guy), is your thought process like, "Damn, I would so tear that shit up," or more like, "Damn, I'd fap to that bitch so hard." or is it just passive like, "Whatevs, I'm asexual, i don't need you"?
FoshOtter: My thought process is "Damn, I would like to take that girl back to my place for some snuggles and talking. Bitches love snuggles and talking."
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Cadence turns 19 in 15 minutes so we’re livestreaming! Tune in!
Men… won’t have their opinions weighed or dismissed solely on the...– “Nerds and Male Privilege”
Honestly, in my experience having a fair *ahem* number of partners—both cis-male...– a RookieMag article on what it’s like to date another woman
"Happy" mix →
A Formspringer asked me what music I listen to when I need to cheer up, so I made an 8tracks playlist full of cheery, “vortex-y” music. :D
My 10 favorite movies are High Fidelity, The Shawshank Redemption, Catch Me If You Can, James Dean, Dead Poets Society, Human Nature, Mean Girls, Cast Away, Anchorman, and Bedazzled. Don’t judge me, bro!
VALUES I TRY TO LIVE BY
1. Communication & honesty are vital to any healthy relationship. 2. Self-care, when necessary, is more important than caring for others, because you can’t provide any real, lasting help if you haven’t first sorted yourself out. 3. Happiness & optimism are a choice, & a choice worth making, in all situations. 4. People who are taking brave risks deserve all the love...
new Fort Christmas song!!!
Confetti by Jeremy Larson I love you Jeremy Larson.
how to feel sexy on a rainy day
read erotic stories by the window (preferably while dressed in a cute little slip dress or similar). listen to burlesque music while you get dressed. notice how your body responds. make a list of sexual things you want to try & do one of them. (surely not all the things on your list will require a partner!) stare at yourself naked in the mirror, focusing on the parts you like best, until...
How to Have "Fat" Sex →
READ ALL OF THIS, especially if you are insecure about your body in relation to sex. Such a brilliant post!
Masturbate. Figuring out how you like to be touched will both prepare you to...– Mara Glatzel
Things I Love Thursday
-being there to support my friends -the word “cunnilingual” -Linus & Lucy -helping queer youth -wrapping gifts in gold holographic wrapping paper -Anais & Wes -delicious food & good company at Il Fornello -celebrating our nine months at Japango -photobooth adventures with my love -watching TV with my mom -payday!! -Sexxit -Damian keeping my feet warm under his...
Lindy West: "Hello, I Am Fat" →
GREAT fat-positive blog post. “This is my body. It is MINE. I am not ashamed of it in any way. In fact, I love everything about it. Men find it attractive. Clothes look awesome on it. My brain rides around in it all day and comes up with funny jokes. Also, I don’t have to justify its awesomeness/attractiveness/healthiness/usefulness to anyone, because it is MINE. Not yours.”
this week's homework for saucy nymphs
1. read erotica in the bath 2. do your kegels 3. write out your biggest fantasy 4. visit a female-owned sex shop & ask questions 5. listen to open source sex 6. a) if you have a lover: make a sexual request & fulfill one of theirs b) if you don’t have a lover: make a sexual request of yourself & fulfill it 7. discover a new kink or fetish & explore how you feel...
Never date someone who makes you feel insane or needy or confused or stressed...– Ega Jones
fuckyeahpositivethought: You can make 2012 the best year of your life! And you can do it very easily, right now. All you have to do is set the most powerful intention you can ever set in your life, which is that you will focus only on what you want, think only about what you want, and talk only about what you want. Decide right now that anytime you find yourself thinking or talking about...
[on boys wanting sex while girls want romance] Why all these conflicting...– Amanda Palmer, “Shores of California”