“The moment is all there is. All our worries and plans about the future, all our replaying of things that happened in the past — it’s all in our heads, and it just distracts us from fully living right now. Let go of all that, and just focus on what you’re doing, right at this moment. In this way, any activity can be meditation.”—Leo Babauta
-taking care of cute sick people, making them tea, etc.
-COMMUNICATION - what we want, what we need, how we think, how we feel
-“minor emotional moments”
-being treated to peanut butter chocolate ice cream
-kissing in the rain
-my new favorite dress
-Matt’s old-man-at-Burger-King story (not to mention his self-summary - I am so happy he’s dating Cadence & thus a part of our crew now because he’s fuckin’ rad)
-Cadence’s tomato cupcakes
-MY AMAZING FRIENDS spending AMAZING TIME with me & giving me AMAZING GIFTS on my AMAZING BIRTHDAY
-Scrabble, always, forever
-how well my friends know me
-Max giving me So Jealous on vinyl & then, in response to my lamenting not being able to listen to it due to our lack of a record player, saying “I didn’t get it for you to listen to! I got it for you to look at!”
-an utterly gorgeous sunrise on the roof with Arena
-leftover Chinese food
-MY MOM, MY MOM, MY MOM
-the mysteries of the female body
-little black dresses
-my doctor, who speaks clearly & calmly & makes a lot of sense
-experimenting with iPhone audio recordings of my songs
-ALL MY DREAMS ARE COMING TRUE (i.e. when you make a wish & then, a few days or weeks or months later, it miraculously materializes exactly as you hoped it would)
-offers I can’t refuse
-pink lipstick that smells like coconut
-finally grasping the missing piece of the puzzle (“everything makes so much SENSE!!!”)
-Damian’s rad family
-the Unicorns on vinyl
-the word “libido”
Forgiveness is the most powerful thing that you can do for your physiology and your spirituality, and it remains one of the least attractive things to us, largely because the ego rules so unequivocally. To forgive is somehow associated with saying that it is all right, that we accept the evil deed. But this is not forgiveness.
Forgiveness means that you fill yourself with love and you radiate that love outward and refuse to hang onto the venom or hatred that was engendered by the behaviors that caused the wounds. Forgiveness is a spiritual act of love for yourself and it sends a message to everyone, including yourself, that you are an object of love and that that is what you are going to impart.
Mostly out of boredom, I’m probably gonna release a Bandcamp album of lo-fi iPhone recordings of some of my songs that have never been officially released before. Which songs of mine would you like to be on it?
“I am only 17 for another 7 hours. Slightly terrifying. Maybe I should be feeling my youth is slipping away or some such bullshit, but right now, I feel as full of vitality & energetic truth as ever. I feel like I’ll miss 17 but I’ll be equally brilliant at 18. Here we go.”—Journal entry from April 22nd 2010 (I turned 19 today, you guys!)
Things I Love Thursday: streetcars, ninja knives, & big beautiful women
-shaking up the routine
-awkward nerds armed with ninja knives & birthday cake
-being distracted, & being distracting
-riding the streetcar en masse
-compliant co-conspirators/”thanks for helping us be sneaky teenagers”
-the leather couch effect
-shopping lists which include champagne, pasta, & peach juice
-having entire conversations via Moleskine with Cadence in sociology class
-“I love how we’re like educated & stuff”
-late-night chats full of intimate revelations & clearheaded discussions
-men’s dress shirts
-slightly territorial touch
-widened eyes & raised eyebrows
-the ridiculously stunning dress I bought to wear to my birthday party this weekend
-when I write down a wish & it comes true exactly as written (& then I tell Damian & he accuses me of witchcraft)
-attempting to make a list of 100 albums I would take with me on a desert island, & reveling in the vast vastness of music
-friends who know you so well that you can communicate via facial expressions, gestures, & nounless incomplete sentences (“Hey!” “Hey. So, yeah…” “Yeah?” “Yeah.” “REALLY?!” “Mmhmm.” “AWESOME!” “Yup!”)
-Cadence, writing in my journal: “I knows I knows I knows! We have hotdamn lovas!”
-people who can pre-emptively read my body language
-how reassuring it is when I find myself wanting the things I’m supposed to want
-H&M, always - trying on stacks of dresses & walking out with a bag full of fresh sartorial inspiration
-people who appreciate curves + the OkTrends article which says that curvy women tend to have higher self-confidence & higher sex drives + the term “BBW” (especially abbreviated to “BB Dubz”)
-weird unexpected events where I alternate between hysterical crying & hysterical laughter - so fucking strange but they relieve tension & are kind of perversely fun
-a kiss as the answer to a question
-when I write journal entries while totally exhausted & then re-read them a few days later & laugh at how little sense they make
-when Cadence plays dress-up with my clothes
-sharing helpful information
-ginger chai cupcakes
-long games of Scrabble with the bestie in our favorite café
“It’s very dear to me, the issue of gay marriage. Or, as I like to call it: “marriage.” You know, because I had lunch this afternoon, not gay lunch. I parked my car; I didn’t gay park it.”—Liz Feldman (via liquorinthefront)
artists need to make money to eat and to continue to make art.
artists used to rely on middlemen to collect their money on their behalf, thereby rendering themselves innocent of cash-handling in the public eye.
artists will now be coming straight to you (yes YOU, you who want their music, their films, their books) for their paychecks.
please welcome them. please help them. please do not make them feel badly about asking you directly for money.
dead serious: this is the way shit is going to work from now on and it will work best if we all embrace it and don’t fight it.
OkCupid uses math, algorithms, etc. to locate people in your area with whom you would be compatible. People who you would not ordinarily have met, probably.
It’s fucking brilliant & I just had an impulse to give it my solid endorsement, so here it is: I totally love OkCupid & IT WORKS & I recommend it to anyone I ever meet who’s having trouble finding someone awesome to spend time with!