Not sure why you even dignified that last one with a response. That lame insult was so transparently attention seeking. However, I would also want to hide behind anonymity if I was going to defend the literary merits of a fanfic turned softcore porn trilogy!
Ha, you said it!
I think it’s important for all art forms to be celebrated and for us to acknowledge the hard work that goes into all kinds of art-making… but to laud Fifty Shades as a great work of literature is a total crock. It’s trashy, hot, badly-written fiction, perfect for reading when you don’t want to have to use your brain. And there’s nothing wrong with that.
you would post a negative review of 50 shades of grey. snob.
Hahaha. Not sure how I’m a “snob,” considering that a) the book is truly horribly written and b) I’m hardly the first to point this out - thousands of people also disliked the book.
It’s okay if you liked it. I’m not judging you if you liked it. I fully understand how tempting and delicious it can be to read something really salacious and low-brow (I mean, for goodness’ sake, I’ve read Harlequin novels and The Notebook). I’m just saying that Fifty Shades is very obviously poorly written - which you don’t have to agree with, but many do - and that I am not enjoying it.
“Ana bites her lip 35 times, Christian’s lips “quirk up” 16 times, Christian “cocks his head to one side” 17 times, characters “purse” their lips 15 times, and characters raise their eyebrows a whopping 50 times. Add to that 80 references to Ana’s anthropomorphic “subconscious” (which also rolls its eyes and purses its lips, by the way), 58 references to Ana’s “inner goddess,” and 92 repetitions of Ana saying some form of “oh crap” (which, depending on the severity of the circumstances, can be intensified to “holy crap,” “double crap,” or the ultimate “triple crap”)…Characters “murmur” 199 times and “whisper” 195 times (doesn’t anyone just talk?), “clamber” on/in/out of things 21 times, and “smirk” 34 times. Finally, in a remarkable bit of symmetry, our hero and heroine exchange 124 “grins” and 124 “frowns”… which, by the way, seems an awful lot of frowning for a woman who experiences “intense,” “body-shattering,” “delicious,” “violent,” “all-consuming,” “turbulent,” “agonizing” and “exhausting” orgasms on just about every page.”—the best review I’ve seen of Fifty Shades of Grey
i’ve been running my life this way for years, bouncing up and down financially and just making sure i always had enough money to do WHAT I WANTED, and do it RIGHT.
it may be what makes me different, fundamentally, from a lot of pop artists. i’m almost never looking at the monetary bottom line, i’m always looking at the creative bottom line. the happiness index of my life and creative self, not the amount of dough i’ll have in the bank at the end of a project. (it can drive a manager crazy.)
“What do you need to be happy? I love simple things, like taking a walk, spending time with a loved one, reading a book, eating some berries, drinking tea. These cost very little, and require very little, and can make me very happy. Find the simple things that give you similar happiness, and focus on those rather than what you don’t have.”—Leo Babauta
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Any vibrators recommendations? I have the bullet and a plastic one that's insertable and also works on the clit, but neither of them have really done it for me. I'm looking to step it up a bit on quality but keep the price below $50.
Honestly, for under $50, you can’t really get anything high-quality that’s not a bullet, IMO. There are lots of battery-powered hard plastic toys in that price range, and they’re all pretty similar.
My favorite cheapo vibe is the Turbo Glider because it’s waterproof, cute-looking, and has a lot more power than most vibes in that price area. But if you really want something good, you’re going to have to save up at least $90 for something from Lelo, Jimmyjane, Jopen, or Leaf.
Yeah I refuse to do the needy thing and go beg for him to take me back because I know I can do better. It's just so weird though that we spent so much time together and I saw this really cool person that I connected with and had good times with. And now I'm seeing this other horrible side of him that is forcing me to forget about his good side.
Oh, I’ve been there. People can be two-faced. The trick is to not take it personally. Hugs!
Thank you so, so much Kate. That makes perfect sense and I completely agree. You know what's worse though is that he isn't even Korean! Not that white guys can't go out with Korean girls, but I feel like he is even more racist because he is fueling a horrible and oppressive stereotype because he is claiming he needs someone more docile. Thanks again:)
No problem. Yeah, ignore that asshole, he’s a racist self-absorbed fucker and you can do much much better.
someone i was dating for about 4 months recently broke things off by completely cutting me out of their lives. we went from seeing each other every other day, spending time with each other's family, etc. to him completely ignoring my texts. he had our mutual friend drop my stuff off that i had left at his house and he told this friend that he needs a "korean girl" (i'm caucasian.) this happened a month ago and i'm done hurting but I don't know what to make of the situation. is there something
cont: i can learn from this? should i hold on to the memories? should I feel sorry for him? should I view him as a complete douche? i’m no longer depressed. i had my cathartic period and my friends were completely supportive. but I just find myself at a loss for words when people ask about the situation and what I think about this guy or when I try to feel closure about the situation. Sincerely, Confused. Thanks Kate!
Wow, that guy’s an ass. He’s immature, he doesn’t know what he wants, he doesn’t know how relationships work, and he doesn’t know how to respectfully deal with people. You can justifiably choose to view him as a complete douche if that’s what you want to do.
Look, the thing is, none of this is your fault. He’s saying he wants to date someone of his own race, which is a) racist and b) nothing you can change. So there’s really no reason to fret over it, or replay it in your mind, or try to figure out what you could have done differently. The answer is: this guy’s not made for a relationship right now, and the only thing you could have done differently is get out earlier!
I know that you’re going to meet someone awesome in the future who treats you like a human being, rather than some disposable accessory du jour. And when that happens, this will truly seem like an unimportant, trivial chapter of your life, which is exactly what it is. Don’t sweat it, darlin’.
“Biologically [women are] not really -meant- to have an orgasm. It serves little purpose. On top of that we have to kind of LEARN how to orgasm whereas with men it is pretty cut and dry. I no longer let that factor bother me and luckily my new partner understands (and was actually the one who helped me better understand). I don’t go into sex looking to orgasm, that isn’t the reason I’m having sex. I’m having it for the feelings, sensations, emotions, and connections. I don’t consider it a failure if I don’t orgasm, I take more pleasure from the experience than I do from that one instance.”—LJ user Astralrayn
We are proud to be men, and we are proud to wear dresses. We believe we are men, no matter what we wear (or don’t wear) We stand with women, equal in all attire
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“Here we have that classic conservative view of homosexuality as a corruptive idea rather than an inherent identity; as a social virus — one that can be inoculated against through silence (or, as some of us might prefer to call it, censorship) — rather than an inborn reality. (What always strikes me about this attitude is that it seems implicitly to hold that gay sex is so awesome that just hearing about it will make folks want to try it; otherwise, it wouldn’t pose such a threat, now, would it?)”—Right-Wing Sexual Pathos
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“Too often, stories objectify women. But the word “objectify,” I’ve realized, has almost no meaning for someone who has either not experienced objectification or who hasn’t really recognized it in her own life, so I’m going to be more descriptive here. When I say stories objectify girls, I mean they talk about girls as though they are fleshlights that sometimes have handy dandy extra gadgets such as an all-purpose cleaning mechanism and food dispensing function.”—Sparrow