Anonymous asked: You realise that 'femme' is a lesbian identity, right? Are you a lesbian?
femme was actually coined as a term by a lesbian, written about a bisexual woman she was having an affair with.
that being said, i’m fucking queer and dyke is one of my identities and i’m femme. so yeah.
Things I have on my phone: an overabundance of photos of llamas (and I think the last one is a calf?). Last year my class was required to go to the Royal Winter Agricultural Fair and write a story, so I interviewed salespeople there and wrote a piece about how sales were way down… but mostly I was just interested in the llamas.
-My feature is being published in a magazine in about 2 months! Ahh!
-I have a job interview tomorrow for a job that would be truly perfect for me and I’m feeling very prepared and oddly calm about it
-Easter dinner last night with loved ones was so nice and we had great conversations about important things
-My birthday is on Wednesday and I get to have sushi dinner and get dolled up
-Later this month I’m going to watch Mean Girls with some friends to commemorate the 10-year anniversary of the movie coming out
-Tru is cuddling with me right now and has been all night because she loves me
-In June I get to hang out naked in public
-Warm weather is pretty much the norm now, yay Canada, finally
-Netflix exists!!! and I have been binge-watching old episodes of House, which are really clever and engaging
-I have cute blue and pink Nikes for when I exercise, which I’m going to do shortly
-Delicious healthy meals are easy to make, and I learn to make more on a regular basis
-Pride is coming up in a couple months and I get to go dancing and dress slutty and celebrate queerness
Anonymous asked: Having a crisis. I love my boyfriend, we've been dating for a while and have been friends for even longer. I'm a feminist, and my bf has always been very "I don't want to call myself a feminist bc it's a very broad definition and humanist bla bla bla". I've always kinda ignored it because even though he's intimidated by the title, he subscribes to the ideas and is a good guy. Recently on our campus, there was an attack on a female student (friend of mine), who had been part of a group trying to
…deratify an MRA club. My bf was disgusted by the attack, but the incident got us talking about MRA groups. He didn’t hate them and see their absolute fucking ridiculousness as much as I had expected him to. In fact he said a a lot of things that pissed me off. And now so much of me hates him. I feel like I’ve had this epiphany that he’s actually an asshole and I don’t know what to do. This happened very quickly and it feels like it would be so crazy to end a relationship over something that happened so fast…but as the same time, I am so angry and upset and disgusted.
Okay, time for some real talk:
1. You are allowed to break up with someone for any reason you want. Period.
2. Ideological/political differences are a perfectly valid reason to break up with someone (as is ANY reason; see above).
3. This sounds like it wasn’t just the one incident. You had an inkling of these differences from the beginning and this incident is just the first in a likely string of terrible fallouts that will result if you stay in a relationship with someone you are disastrously different from.
4. You deserve better than someone who refuses to align himself with a political movement that serves to make sure people like you (women) are treated with fairness and respect. You deserve someone for whom that is a total no-brainer.
I’m not the boss of your life. I can’t tell you what to do. But if it were me, I would dump this guy immediately. That’s no joke.