I literally don’t understand people who say they “don’t hate gays” and “aren’t homophobic” but don’t want gay people to have equal rights.
Sorry, but whether or not you choose to openly say that you hate gay people and are a homophobe, that is the case. If you believed that they’re people, you’d believe they are worthy of all the rights you have, period.
"Homophobia: The fear that another man will treat you like you treat women." ~ (unattributed)
Stealing this idea from Ellie. I usually set myself a goal of reading 24 books each year (2 per month) and so far I’ve read 23. There’s still almost a whole month left, though! Here’s what I’ve read in 2013 so far…
1. Dry by Augusten Burroughs
I like Augusten’s writing. I’ve read several of his books and I enjoy his sense of humor and simple storytelling, not to mention his extremely fucked-up life stories that may or may not be true. This one is about his journey through rehab, which was interesting to read after having read so many stories of his in which he references his seemingly neverending alcoholic period. Slightly more serious than his typical work, but not by much.
2. Alice in Wonderland by Lewis Carroll
Read it for my Fairytales and Fantasies class. Loved the whimsy and weirdness of it, naturally.
3. The Narrative of Cabeza de Vaca by Álvar Núñez Cabeza de Vaca
Read it for my Intro to Nonfiction class. The story itself was interesting (and true!), and I enjoyed it a little more after we analyzed it in class, but I didn’t think it was written very well (Cabeza de Vaca wasn’t a writer, after all) and it didn’t really draw me in.
4. Matilda by Roald Dahl
Read for the aforementioned fantasy class. Beautiful story, well told. We ended up going to see the musical adaptation later in the year too, which was cool.
5. American Born Chinese by Gene Luen Yang
Also read for my fantasy class. Great graphic novel about racism and the agony of youth, basically.
6. Winnie-the-Pooh by A. A. Milne
Did an essay on this book for my fantasy class. The essay was about innocence, which is basically what Pooh is all about.
7. A Wolf at the Table by Augusten Burroughs
I don’t remember much of this one. It didn’t make as much of an impression on me as Augusten’s other books, perhaps because it’s quite serious and I tend to like him for his humor. It did offer an interesting view into sociopath psychology from someone who’s witnessed it, though (assuming Augusten’s dad is really a sociopath as he claims).
8. Awake and Dreaming by Kit Pearson
Another fantasy class reading. It was cool to read a fantasy story set in my home country, but other than that, I don’t remember much about this story.
9. Love Yourself Like Your Life Depends On It by Kamal Ravikant
A short read about self-love. We could all use an extra dose of self-love!
10. An Intimate Life by Cheryl T. Cohen Greene
A memoir about a life doing sex surrogacy work. Interesting reading for sex nerds.
11. A Stolen Life by Jaycee Dugard (TW: rape)
I have a love-hate relationship with stories about women being abducted, held captive, and raped. They fascinate me weirdly but they also horrify me (of course) and give me nightmares. Ms. Dugard’s bravery is commendable and her book is honest and open-hearted, but not for fraidy-cats or those who are triggered by sexual abuse stuff.
12. Looking for Alaska by John Green
I wouldn’t mind reading more John Green novels in the future, as this is exactly the kind of stuff I loved when I was a starving-hearted preteen wishing for my perfect, smart, affectionate boyfriend. This book reeked of Manic Pixie Dream Girl and I’ve heard all his other work does as well, and while I don’t agree with that shit, it still makes for a fun read.
13. Changing the Channel by Michael Masterson
Had to read this for my summer internship. It’s about marketing. Most of the info is somewhat dated because technology moves so fast. Really had to force myself through it.
14. The Stripper’s Guide to Looking Great Naked by Jennifer Axen
The title is misleading because it’s actually based on interviews with strippers, not real-life stripping experience on the part of the author. Contained some great tips (including what to do if you have to strip while you’re on your period – fascinating) but mostly it’s stuff you could find on the internet.
15. The Tao of Pooh by Benjamin Hoff
A good read for the rare subset of people who a) hold vaguely Buddhist or Taoist spiritual beliefs and b) are diehard Winnie-the-Pooh fans.
16. Ecstasy is Necessary by Barbara Carrellas
I would love to read more books about the intersection between sex and spirituality. This was a great intro and it also has a small section on how to have a breath-and-energy orgasm (which I haven’t been able to achieve yet!).
17. Magical Thinking by Augusten Burroughs
Uhhhh I can’t really remember anything from this, but I gather I must have liked it because I like Augusten and am currently reading another of his many books.
18. Instruments of Pleasure by Rachel Kramer Bussel
A disappointingly short, but juicy and exciting erotica anthology in which every story features some kind of sex toy.
19. The Smart Girl’s Guide to the G-Spot by Violet Blue
While I adore Violet Blue, I don’t feel like I really learned anything new from this book.
20. Through the Looking-Glass, and What Alice Found There by Lewis Carroll
Carroll stories are always a whimsical delight and this was no exception. In the new year I’m hoping to read a Carroll biography.
21. The Introvert’s Way by Sophia Dembling
Started reading it to find a good quote for my feature story on the social needs of introverts; finished reading it because I found it immensely affirming and it actually provided good solutions to problems faced by people like me. Wonderful.
22. Blood, Marriage, Wine, & Glitter by S. Bear Bergman
I will read anything Bear writes. His ruminations on queerness, family, gender, and love are always a treat.
23. The Ocean at the End of the Lane by Neil Gaiman
I’m not sure how I feel about Neil’s writing. It’s quite sparse and simple in some ways, even when the stories themselves are almost too complex and strange for me to understand. I might try another of his books, but I didn’t love this one.
I really can’t imagine anything more humiliating than this. Poor Ashlee.
(From this post, which, dear god, why am I reading it.)
AAHHHH I am very much wishing I had a Santa costume for my cat at this moment.
Anonymous asked: Damn girl, the cunnilingus point on your list is on mine too. I just don't feel comfortable performing oral sex on someone if they aren't willing to reciprocate. Even for those who don't enjoy it, I think the willingness should be there anyways imho
There was a question on AskWomen today about what your top 5, non-negotiable dealbreakers are in a romantic partner. Here are mine:
-abusive in any way (emotional, physical, sexual, etc.)
-bigoted (homophobic, biphobic, transphobic, sexist, racist, sizeist, etc.)
-doesn’t enjoy performing cunnilingus
-sex-negative in any way (disapproves of sex toys, female promiscuity, any act between consenting adults, etc.)
-not as smart as me