There’s an online forum called Get Off My Internet (or something like that) where people just discuss bloggers who they hate and provide evidence for why they hate them.
It continues to perplex me that people would consciously choose to feel negative emotions when they don’t strictly have to.
I am feeling good about this winter. Winter pushes us to be productive, to put our creative projects first. It makes the time we spend with our friends even more precious. It encourages us to get closer to our families & loved ones. I’m looking forward to it.
One of the things I admire most about Cindy Gallop is the fact that she wants to unite being “bad” with being “good” — to her, there is no distinction. As she told me after we stopped filming, she wants to dispel that old high school myth of the “cool” kids who smoke & drink & have sex behind the bike-sheds, & the “uncool” kids who are do-gooders. She thinks it is entirely possible to drink martinis, have a raging sex life & save the world all at the same time!
Gala Darling on Cindy Gallop
In other news, I’ve been taking my own advice & writing gratitude lists in my pink Moleskine every morning. All I can say is… WOW. This extremely simple act, which only takes a few minutes, has been completely transforming my day. All you need is some paper & a pen, & make it the first thing you do when you roll out of bed. It really sets you up to have an incredible day. In fact, I sincerely believe that generating so much positivity in the morning is helping attract even more loveliness into my life.
'I don’t understand how you can be a style blogger & talk about radical self love,' she said.
We started to chat, & it became quite apparent that we were approaching the issue from opposite sides. One of the first things she said was, ‘Well, we all wear make-up to try to attract men.’
'Uh, wait a second…', I interjected. 'I don’t! I’m wearing make-up right now, but my husband is in New York City. I’m not trying to get laid — I’m wearing this for myself.'
I didn’t even mention the fact that her assumption totally excluded those of us who, for example, are not heterosexual!
As we continued to discuss make-up & self love, I mentioned that I saw make-up as a way of accentuating my features. She replied, ‘That’s funny, I see it as a way of covering up my flaws.’
Now, make-up can do both of these things — & very well — so clearly this is all a matter of perception. It’s about HOW you see it & about your INTENTIONS when you make up your face in the morning. Are you trying to hide who you are, or make the best of your assets?
Loving yourself changes everything about your life. You stop putting up with other peoples’ bullshit. You start to demand more of others, & expect more from yourself. You leave destructive relationships & fizzled-out friendships in the dust. You start to wake up to what you’re truly passionate about, & make steps towards pursuing it. It completely alters your existence in a way that you could not possibly imagine.
Gala had condoms custom-made with her face on them.
I’ve considered ordering my own face on condoms so many times, but there are a couple of issues…
1. I don’t find myself attractive; I don’t want to see myself right before sexytime!
2. Which picture would I use?!
That said… One day I will order some.