visit tracker on tumblr
Ask me anything! Other places you can find me on the internet: Twitter, Flickr, YouTube, Bandcamp, Formspring, Facebook, Last.fm, Etsy, Amazon wishlist, Goodreads.

I think we just have to get rid of all sexual labels and say: I’m sexual. What is my sexual preference? Sex! Sex is my sexual preference.

—Betty Dodson

(Source: youtube.com)

things that piss me off #75926:

People who don’t understand the function of the clitoris.

(Yeah, I used the word “people.” It’s not all men who are ignorant to the clit!)

You guys, it’s women’s PRIMARY PLEASURE SOURCE. What the penis is to men, the clit is to women. Don’t ignore this fact!

If you expect a woman to climax during intercourse, odds are excellent (anywhere from 80% to 93%, studies show) that there’s going to have to be some clitoral stimulation involved. And THIS IS NOT A BAD THING. It doesn’t mean her partner’s penis or dildo is “not enough” for her. It doesn’t mean she’s frigid. It doesn’t mean she’s relying too much on her clitoris. It means she’s a normal, average woman who climaxes in the normal, average way.

No one expects guys to be able to reach climax without penile stimulation, even though some of them are physically capable of doing so. No one calls men names or feels hurt if a man can’t climax from purely prostate stimulation. Why? Because it’s A HELL OF A LOT OF WORK, NOT ALWAYS PHYSICALLY POSSIBLE, and THAT’S NOT THE WAY HE WAS DESIGNED TO REACH ORGASM. Same with women and their vaginal orgasms.

So stop pressuring women to reach orgasm the way you want them to. We don’t expect men to ejaculate cotton candy - why expect all women to be able to climax purely from cock action? It’s entirely ridiculous and unfeminist and offensive and hurtful.

just a thought

it bothers me when bisexual/pansexual/omnisexual people employ that incredibly tired cliché that goes something like, “i fall in love with people, not body parts.” or “i’m interested in who someone is, not what they are or what their anatomy is.”

because frankly - straight girls don’t fall in love with penises. lesbians aren’t chasing after vulvas. (for the most part, anyway.)

we ALL fall in love with people, not anatomy. just because you fall in love with people who happen to have a variety of anatomy, don’t think you are somehow less shallow. shallowness has absolutely nothing to do with sexual orientation.