Please don’t use words like “admitted” or “confessed” when referring to a celebrity who has come out as bi or gay/lesbian.
As a journalist, you are supposed to be impartial, which means you don’t get to editorialize the connotations of someone coming out.
In this day and age, perhaps they didn’t “admit” or “confess” their sexual orientation; perhaps they announced it, gleefully shouted it, got it off their chest, shared it, or just mentioned it.
Don’t attach shame to what deserves none.
i bought a copy of the canadian press stylebook today, and started flicking through it on the streetcar ride home. (we’ve already been studying CP style in class, but i like the immediacy of having it in book form. am i weird?)
i have to say, i’m really impressed with CP’s policies on things like race, gender, and sexual orientation. they’re very progressive for a national institution.
there are actually specific rules that say you shouldn’t mention someone’s ethnicity, gender identification, or sexual orientation unless it’s relevant to the story. and when it is relevant, they tell you to check with the person about the specific terminology they prefer to use (e.g. black vs. african-canadian, gay vs. queer, transgender vs. transsexual) and then use those terms, unless they’re needlessly offensive (e.g. faggot).
we had a senior CP editor come in yesterday to talk to us about CP in general, and he told us that one of the major issues they’re debating for the next edition of the stylebook is whether the singular “they” should be allowed in cases where an individual is trans (or genderqueer, etc.) and “they” is their preferred pronoun. apparently this is a big point of debate at CP right now but it’s looking like it’s going to happen.
regardless, in the 2010 edition i bought today, it says, “use a term the person in question uses (explain if necessary) and a pronoun consistent with how they live.”
you just know i’m going to do a story one day where i interview people who use gender-neutral pronouns like “ze,” and CP is gonna be totally cool with that. AWESOME. i love canada!
Erika Moen pwns those insufferably ignorant folks who think that lesbians who use dildos “aren’t really lesbians.”
(This is from her guide to girl-on-girl sex, which you can read here!)
I think we just have to get rid of all sexual labels and say: I’m sexual. What is my sexual preference? Sex! Sex is my sexual preference.
Being an experienced masturbator will help you be a successful lover more than anything else you could ever do, ever.
Autostraddle, “How to Have Lesbian Sex For the First Time”
Honestly, in my experience having a fair *ahem* number of partners—both cis-male and cis-female—I find that, unless you’re hanging out with a truly talented guy, sex with guys centers around The Penis. […]
Although people act like it’s a state secret or something, what two girls do together in bed is no mystery. We use our hands. We use our mouths.
Believe me, when two girls are having sex, they’re not thinking “What do I do next? There’s no dick!” They’re too busy having sex.
a RookieMag article on what it’s like to date another woman