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It’s National Coming Out Day today…

…and so here’s my yearly announcement: I’m not straight.

I typically identify as “queer” because it’s a blanket term that encompasses the complexity of my not-always-static sexual orientation. However, you can use any of these other terms to describe me, if you want: bisexual, pansexual, Kinsey 2, heteroflexible.

I have straight-passing privilege, which means that I benefit from being frequently misidentified as straight, because of the way I look and the way my partner looks. Though this isn’t a privilege I’m happy about, there are lots of people who would envy me for it, so I have to acknowledge that I’m lucky to be straight-passing. It’s impossible to know how many times it has spared me from incidents of homophobia.

Wishing you the best of luck with any coming out you want or need to do, today or any other day.

qbits:

Kate Bornstein, Scientologist (by xtraonline)

In this revealing interview trans-activist Kate Bornstein talks about her involvement with Scientology and how she was L. Ron Hubbard’s first mate. She also divulges that Hubbard was like a “daddy” figure to her. Bornstein’s autobiography, A Queer and Pleasant Danger is now out.

My aunt and uncle gave me a copy of Kate’s memoir yesterday. They know me so well. Truly, they always get me presents that are easily things I would have bought for myself if it had occurred to me. So excited to read it!
ftmark:

just a reminder that there’s an awesome Ontario-based help line for LGBTQ* Youth (and yes, they really are good at helping everyone, not just binary lesbian/gay folk) and it’s for everyone 26 and under
and it’s called Youthline - they take calls at 1-800-268-9688 and even have an online thingie on their site youthline.ca
I highly recommend it for everyone, especially trans folk since the Trevor project is only for America
ok thanks bye

ftmark:

just a reminder that there’s an awesome Ontario-based help line for LGBTQ* Youth (and yes, they really are good at helping everyone, not just binary lesbian/gay folk) and it’s for everyone 26 and under

and it’s called Youthline - they take calls at 1-800-268-9688 and even have an online thingie on their site youthline.ca

I highly recommend it for everyone, especially trans folk since the Trevor project is only for America

ok thanks bye

a paraphrased conversation I just had

  • Me: You should never assume someone's sexual orientation; wait until they tell you what it is.
  • Random dude: But sometimes assuming is good, because if you think someone's gay, you can make them feel more comfortable by acting gay-friendly around them.
  • Me: ...Why don't you just act gay-friendly ALL THE TIME?
my photo tribute to Coming Out Day in 2008.

Did you ever feel like you had to alter some small part of yourself to fit in better, or to protect yourself?
Can you imagine what it’d be like to feel that on a much larger scale, every day of your life?

Everywhere you go, with everyone you talk to, try to establish an environment in which it is safe for gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgendered, or otherwise queer people to come out. You can never truly know who is sitting in a closet waiting for permission to step outside.

my photo tribute to Coming Out Day in 2008.

Did you ever feel like you had to alter some small part of yourself to fit in better, or to protect yourself?
Can you imagine what it’d be like to feel that on a much larger scale, every day of your life?

Everywhere you go, with everyone you talk to, try to establish an environment in which it is safe for gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgendered, or otherwise queer people to come out. You can never truly know who is sitting in a closet waiting for permission to step outside.

just a thought

it bothers me when bisexual/pansexual/omnisexual people employ that incredibly tired cliché that goes something like, “i fall in love with people, not body parts.” or “i’m interested in who someone is, not what they are or what their anatomy is.”

because frankly - straight girls don’t fall in love with penises. lesbians aren’t chasing after vulvas. (for the most part, anyway.)

we ALL fall in love with people, not anatomy. just because you fall in love with people who happen to have a variety of anatomy, don’t think you are somehow less shallow. shallowness has absolutely nothing to do with sexual orientation.